note to myself

The main reason that people will ignore you in a callous, ignorant, or hurtful way is that acknowledging you will be unpleasant to them. Here are the three sub-reasons:

1. You are a source of embarrassment – being seen near you or talking to you will make them look bad to other people.

2. You are a source of anger, sadness or pain – you may have done something that hurt this person in the past and they associate you with that bad feeling. Sadly, sometimes you don’t realize why they feel this way and so you wind up feeling slighted, too.

3. You are a time sink to a self-centered person – time spent acknowledging you will prevent them from spending time on other things that they want to do.